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Cheating On Trust

by: AlexArcher
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When adults are unfaithful, it doesn't just affect them; it also affects their children. In fact, the effects may even be more devastating for the younger generation. Kids may blame themselves in the short term and also suffer from problems in their own relationsips in the long term.

Feelings of guilt often plague children whose parents have had affairs. Often, these kids will actually assume the blame, believing they somehow contributed to the actions of their parents. Feelings of confusion, anger, and distrust can result, and this will materialize in the way the kids view themselves and their parents.

Many children get a sense of security from a strong relationship between their parents. Once their mother and father start exhibiting negative behavior towards one another, children may intentionally misbehave as they become insecure about their future. Even the possibility of an affair can be enough to affect the way a child acts.

The effects of infidelity on kids can also cause them to become detached from their siblings, even aggressive. This results from the lack of trust with one or the other of the parents. The child may blame their sibling or either parent, be it the unfaithful one or not. They wonder what the parent suffering from the infidelity may have done to cause it.

Infidelity can ruin family life at home. Often, parents attempt to put on masks to conceal their problems. However, children can see right through these, and things end up being even worse than before. An atmosphere of instability prevails and negates what the children need the most.

Children of unfaithful parents carry with them feelings of mistrust and jealousy into their own love relationships. They may suffer from the illusion that they are doomed to repeat their parents' patterns, or they may simply believe that they are immune from having a partner that will not do the same thing.

Infidelity can also cause a relationship break between the parent and the child. They may feel anger towards them because they feel as if the parent did this to them, abandoned them. The wounds may heal but more than likely they will never completely heal. The child, even into adulthood, will always remember what happened and wonder.

Even if the parents do choose to remain together, rather than going through a divorce which will cause even more damage to a child, there will always be that thought at the back of the child's mind: will they do this again. They continue to watch out for it and are always wondering if and when.

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