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Infidelity Raises Issues Of Trust

by: AlexArcher
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When a man or woman has an affair, attention is most often focused on them, their marriage, and the looming outcome. The effects of this infidelity on kids is often overlooked, but it can be just as hard on children as it is on their parents. Like their mother and father, kids may begin experiencing feelings of mistrust, self-blame, and confusion; and it will undoubtedly affect them down the road in relationships of their own.

Many children will look for reasons to blame themselves for their parents' action of infidelity. They will begin to feel guilty for causing the situation at hand, and as a result, will begin to feel confused, angry, and sad. All of these misconceptions become a weak foundation on which their present and future feelings of mistrust are built.

One of the main things that gives children a sense of security is the relationship between their parents. If their parents are having problems, children may start to act out and become afraid of what lays ahead for them. Even if there is just the thought of infidelity which puts a strain on the relationship, children will feel it.

The effects of infidelity on kids can reach beyond the individual child as well. They might become aggressive towards their siblings, or they may simply detach themselves from them emotionally all together. It is even possible that they will point the finger of blame in the direction of a brother, sister, mother, or father, wondering who actually caused the cheater to be unfaithful in the first place.

Infidelity can ruin family life at home. Often, parents attempt to put on masks to conceal their problems. However, children can see right through these, and things end up being even worse than before. An atmosphere of instability prevails and negates what the children need the most.

In the future, the effects of infidelity on kids can continue into their own relationships. They may have trust issues with their partner, creating feelings of jealousy and doubt. This can end up destroying any relationship that they have because they will always think back to what their parent did and wonder if their partner will do the same thing.

A breakdown in the relationship between a parent and a child can also result from infidelity. The child may harbor feelings of anger or resentment towards their mother or father and feel that they have been abandoned. Deep, emotional wounds such as these never seem able to fully heal, and many children will carry these with them well into their adult lives.

Even if the parents do choose to remain together, rather than going through a divorce which will cause even more damage to a child, there will always be that thought at the back of the child's mind: will they do this again. They continue to watch out for it and are always wondering if and when.

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